“Life isn’t always supposed to be happy, is just not the way it is, it doesn’t really makes sense that way you know. There is good and bad, and learning to deal with all of this good and bad kind of creates this wholeness in you and that’s what people are searching for, rather than happiness “ – Tyler Posey from Teen Wolf
On the first day of this year’s San Diego Comic Con, Tyler Posey shared these words during the Teen Wolf panel, after being asked a question from a girl in the audience about how to deal with depression. This was one of the nicest moments from my SDCC 2017 experience, and one that is not out of the norm and a big reason why I love this event. Cons are places where people come together because they have similar interests and the doors and opportunities that bringing people together open are impressive. There we all share stories, excitement, hopes, and interests. It is for most, a safe place, to be you.
Early afternoon on Thursday July 20th, a girl dressed as White Raven approached the microphone at the San Diego Comic Con Hall H during the Teen Wolf’s panel. With a very mousy exterior, she tried to fight her nerves and get her words out, as she was interrupted by the show’s creator Jeff Davis, who very playfully asked her to please “don’t start with this is for everyone on the panel”. With a nervous laugh, she immediately responded, “sorry, it is”, and continued to address the cast. After explaining how the show had positively impacted her and thanking everyone on the show, she proceeded to ask ” when things have gotten hard for you in your lives, what got you through it and what advice can you offer those of us still struggling through the dark?” Wow, what a heavy question. I don’t think that the depth of the request here was lost on the audience, or the cast, as it was obvious to all when we were completely silent for a few seconds before the creator of the show, Jeff Davis, started addressing the question. A question that sounded more like a plea for help and reassurance that things will be ok. In that moment, he asked Tyler and Dylan to please respond and Tyler didn’t show any hesitation and immediately started answering the girl.
After a few polite words of encouragement and advice he finally came out with the following words “Life isn’t always supposed to be happy, is just not the way it is, it doesn’t really makes sense that way you know. There is good and bad, and learning to deal with all of this good and bad kind of creates this wholeness in you and that’s what people are searching for, rather than happiness”. Finally, some honesty, I thought. The not so happy thoughts most people don’t share, specially in these type of situations, because it seems as if this may signify a negative outlook in life when in turn is the opposite. It becomes a relieve, a way to tell yourself is ok, to know that life is not supposed to be anything in particular. We have all these expectations, we are always told to aspire to do what makes us happy. Then again, it is the journey that makes us happy, not the “destination” we were all too eager to get to. The journey, that had fails, broken dreams, problems and disillusions. And the joy of getting through those that made us into who we are today. More than we were before.
Thank you Tyler for a bit of honesty in the mist of all the make believe of the Con. Thanks for sharing your own experience too. It was nice to hear and a great addition to my collection of Con memories. I hope this can reach even more people and help at least part of the new generation in getting a better perspective of life and the wonderful and complex thing it is.
Good + Bad = Human